Bosses are like mirrors, they reflect your behavior. But there are times when the light coming from an angle gets reflected somewhere else. Similarly, a boss’s anger might also find its way to you, despite you being innocent. In any such case, retaliating with aggression and rudeness might ruin your relationship.
Keeping calm with the boss, is what then enters the frame. As an employee you need to understand that you work directed by a single order or direction, that is ready-made available to you. But a boss has to ascertain solutions for a variety of problems. Unlike your mind, there are numerous things that run through that leader’s mind. The understanding needs to come from you, as an employee.
Hence, I list down some ways to keep calm with your boss at work, which will help you progress and also help your boss’s mental health.
Assertively Willing and Honest
Maintaining these morals is very important. These are the factors that will always keep you away from problems. Being assertive is being positive and negative, situationally. A straight yes if you feel you can accomplish the task and a straight no if it’s not your cup of tea. DON’T EVER COMMIT, TO BACK-OUT LATER.
Even if you are not able to perform the task or need assistance, be assertive enough to ask for it. If unneeded, show the will and honesty in doing the work, it reflects on the inference of the task and boss’s response.
Calmed Response Calmed Stimulus
If it is your mistake, own up to it. Do not retaliate or act defensive. Being defensive would attract more attacks.
The most effective way to calm your boss down is to respond calmly. The wonders that a lowered tone and decent tenor does, will benefit the atmosphere in and around you.
Though you are at the receiving end of all the yelling, no one is asking you to accept it all. It is just advisable to speak when it is all silenced, rather than screaming in the noise and not being heard.
A Talk in Person
After things are calmed, you can resume your vocals. The main motive being to clarify that it was not your fault rather than again provoking your boss.
What if you ask an Appointment? It’s the best that one can do, that is to sit face to face and politely clarify the case. Again the appointment is a personal talk, so feel free to clarify the facts but in an accented tone.
Speaking Truly
Be it the worst kind of a guilt, if you are at fault then commit it and finish it off. A factual confession would after all build a trusted image of you being truthful.
Start the generic conversation by saluting your talk to be true and the boss should believe in it. Only speak the truth as it displays the conviction on your face. The conviction speaks for itself. If you are lying, the conviction would be missing and there are chances your clarification to be considered an excuse.
Follow-up Till The Solution
After sorting the matter out, it is important to suggest a solution. This will establish back the trust, if lost.
Keep a follow-up, its important with respect to the good books of the boss. A follow-up is always helpful in depicting will you have for the benefit for the firm.
Hope these tips help you plan a proper calm time with your boss at work.
