Lying is a terrible thing, we all know that, but sometimes honesty is not the best policy. Nooriyah Merchant tells you about 10 white lies you ought to tell when in a relationship, if you want to continue being in one
1. “YES DEAR, I UNDERSTAND”
When your partner won’t stop whining about how that movie saga or sitcom that has ended meant so much to them, or how losing that online gaming tournament is hurting them, or any other such random thing that you can’t relate to, stay calm. Just tell them you understand, it doesn’t matter if you don’t. They just need to be placated a little. After all, it won’t be long before you go on and on about something they don’t understand.
2. “YOUR BEST FRIEND IS AWESOME!”
Being in the good books of the best friend is always a crucial aspect of a relationship. However, after all your efforts, if it doesn’t work out and you can’t help but be a little creeped out by their best friend, the next best thing to do is lie about your fondness for them. This will help your partner balance two cherished relationships without the worry of their best friend and lover hating one another.
3. “THANK YOU SO MUCH! I LOVE IT!”
When accepting a present from your partner, always appreciate what they have got for you. Even if you don’t really like it that much just let them knowit’s appreciated, it will make them happy and feel good about them selves.
4. “YOU LOOK FABULOUS!”
This is one lie, if said with enough conviction, spares a lot of unnecessary drama. More than always, when your partner asks you if they look good in a particular dress or if the particular shade suits them, in their mind it does. In their mind they like what they are wearing, hence, they are wearing it. The only reason they ask you is for a little extra bit of external assurance. They want to hear what is already in their mind, but from you. So if you feel that they could perhaps do better, don’t tell them. Just tell them they look fabulous.
5. “HE/SHE IS JUST A FRIEND”
Suppose there is this attractive friend that you have of the opposite sex and maybe you have had the hots for them in the past, or maybe, you two had a little thing going on for a while before your partner came along. Now, when your partner asks you about your friend, don’t let out that little part about your past. Say that you were/are friends and nothing more, for you clearly are over them and have no feelings for that old flame anymore, so why let it hamper your present with the probability of jealousy or suspicion. Let the past be the past.
6. “I WASN’T CHECKING HIM/HER OUT”
Normal people when in a relationship do not become oblivious to others around them. It’s natural to look at some one good looking who passes by you. There is nothing wrong or shameful in it. Although, if your partner is of a type who minds such behavior on your part, simply tell them you don’t check others out. You could also try to not check out people for real, that won’t really work though. The best option then is to say a white lie.
7. “I DON’T MIND YOU HANGING OUT WITH HIM/HER”
In a situation when your partner’s close friend is of the opposite sex and the two of them spending time together makes you possessive or even suspicious, please don’t let your partner know how you truly feel. Trust them and tell them you don’t mind their friendship. 99.99% of the time your suspicions are uncalled for. If you do let your let your partner know how you really feel, it will only cause them pain knowing you don’t trust them enough. So avoid.
8. “IT WAS A CALL FROM HOME”
When your friend calls you up with some juicy gossip and you are so into the conversation that you don’t notice or even deliberately ignore you partner’s call who has been on hold for a long time, you know they are going to ask you, who was the other line. What do you do? Simple. You tell them it was your mom/dad/sister/brother/uncle/aunt…. If you tell them it was your friend and you were just gossiping, chances are that they are going to get mad at you. So avoid that, and tell them it was an important call from home. They won’t ask you much after that.
9. “I MISSED YOU TOO!”
You were out with your friends or family the entire day, and you were having the best time you have had in ages. The day was so eventful that you did not really get a chance to think about your partner, let alone call them up and talk to them, and then at the end of the day when you are finally with them or just talking to them on the phone and they say they “Missed you soooo much”, tell them you missed them too. It doesn’t matter if they didn’t even cross your thoughts. Telling them the truth will be like smack on their face. “I missed you too!” is what you should say.
10. “I NEVER LIE.”
“I never lie” is a lie you absolutely must say. If you don’t say this lie every time you tell any of the other nine lies, your partner will doubt you. It is crucial for your partner to believe that you don’t lie. It will help things run smoothly in your relationship.